Colette Morris writes about her life and business experiences and insights. She is passionate about Healthy Living, and giving back to society in any way she can. A very determined lady an excellent motivator and leader who loves a challenge. She is also a very down to earth and family orientated person. If you get value from her posts, be sure to leave a comment and let her know.

Colette Morris writes about her life and business experiences and insights. She is passionate about Healthy Living, and giving back to society in any way she can. A very determined lady an excellent motivator and leader who loves a challenge. She is also a very down to earth and family orientated person. If you get value from her posts, be sure to leave a comment and let her know.

Persistence- A lesson learned from a five-year-old !


I happened to be blessed with two gorgeous grandsons, aged 5 and 26 months old.   They bring with them so much joy and lots of fun.  I continuously find myself observing and learning from them.  I read somewhere that you should sit and observe OLD people and babies.   My life experience so far has allowed me to do this with some amazing insights.

I am constantly amazed at how much their little brain is soaking up at this young age, and makes me wish my old brain was as reactive and had the capacity to learn as theirs.  Their innocence of how simple life is, really is something as adults we should take on board. As we get older, we make life complicated for no reason.  It really can be as simple as how a child sees it.

I watch how the five year old patiently teaches himself to learn Russian, and is now able to write the alphabet and recite it… no one in my family can speak the language, yet he managed this himself.  Admittingly the new age digital era has alot to do with this.  However, he has taught me that nothing is impossible if you put your mind to it.  I have known this, of course, but seeing a five year old develop his skillset so quickly to learn how to speak and write a foreign languague unaided is on another level totally.

SO here are my takeaways from all my observations:

  • Be Persistant and focussed – do not get distracted and taken away from your task
  • Be Consistent – he practices in every way he can, through writing on an ipad, to writing on paper, to writing on a magnetic board
  • Be Patient  and reward yourself when you have got it right
  • Learn something new every day
  • Teach someone what you have learned so that it enforces what you have learned, but makes you look like the expert.
  • Have fun doing what you are learning, it sinks in easier.

I will share my insights from my elders in another post, but for now hope you enjoyed the above, short but brief insight…. let me know if you have learned anything from young people in the comments below….

 

 

 


 

 

Finding and Defining My PurposeAnd How You Can Too

I have just been listening to a short extract from Bishop TD Jakes, and he talks about Finding Yourself.

Bishop TD Jakes said we are all here for a purpose, and if you care for a person with Dementia right now, that is your special purpose, if you are looking after a child with downsyndrome, or autism, that is your purpose, if you are going through Cancer right now, again that is your purpose.  You have been chosen to deal with the situation you are in because you have the skills to deal with it, sometimes you just don’t know that you have.  You may think the situation is too much and become exasporated , but know this,  GOD will not give you more than you can bear.  Deep….

That is so, true. 

I have gone through being the one to look after a person with Dementia, I have gone through a marriage break up, I have gone through realtionships breaking down, I have gone through health challenges,  I have gone through financial challenges, we all do at some point in our life go through challenges.  But know that this is what they are, challenges.

At the time we are going through our tribulations and trials, we may cry and curse and say why me…. but know this, ultimately YOU were chosen, remember  it is not about you, it is about who you can serve, who you can help in the overall bigger picture, once you get through, because ultimately you will get through,  it is just a matter of time.   What I have learnt in my life so far is that it is never about us, but when we are going through the storm, we can only think about us….

We do not know sometimes, what our friends or co-workers or colleagues are truly going through in their lives, we do not know the demons they are battling, or the strain or stress that they are going through.  Often the ones who smile at you, and listen and encourage, are those who are going through the darkest times.  I know because this was me….

 Let me get personal and let you into my world for a bit….

When my Mother (God rest her soul) was diagnosed with Vascular Dementia, I thought WHY ME….. I was so selfish. I was thinking about myself, how at the age of 48, I had just began to get my life back, get used to having a social life again, begin dating again, as my kids were now grown up young men, and I could live life without worrying about baby sitters, when I was told the news of my mother. 

For me, from the age of 20 when I left home, I was a carer – looking after a boyfriend, later Husband, then Children, to after 20 or so years being free for a few short months, then being a carer again for my Mother.

However after getting over that part of my life, I reflected on the timing of all this, and came to the conclusion, I was meant to look after my mum, I had the empathy, the patience, the love to care for her no matter what.  Because, if she had been diagnosed when my Father was alive, he would not have been able to cope with looking after her.  He did not have the empathy, or patience, or even maybe the understanding of what her illness would entail. So it was left to be my purpose.  What I learned from looking after my Mother with Dementia has truly changed me as a person. It has also changed most of my family who were there to experience it first hand. 

I have gained so much more patience and perseverence and understanding, it has made me more aware of other peoples view points and circumstances, because for a person with Dementia, normal every life can be so frightful and confusing.  What may seem normal to us, is strange and out of place for someone with Dementia.

What can seem weird to us, is actually normal in the eyes of someone with dementia, because they slowly lose the concept of ‘things’ everyday tasks such as washing, dressing, sleeping and eating. Things we take for granted! I learned to look throuigh another person’s eyes, asking questions and listening to their answers, trying to get into their world.  All this was the outcome of looking after my Mother with Vascular Dementia.

The whole experience of going through looking after my Mother was a life lesson for me. What started as looking like a ‘curse’ ended up as me being eternally gratefully that it was a responsiblity that was given to me. It has helped me in my personal and professional life to learn more about individuals, making contact and building trust and relationships. To cherish what you have NOW, to appreciate the relationships you have and build peaceful lasting ones.

So each of us has a purpose, that will lead to to other things you are not currently doing or even think of right now, for some it may take time to find, but in finding your purpose can lead to much more….

So I want to ask you what lessons have you learned from going through trails and tribulations in your life?

Did you find that they helped you and others like you?

 

 

Being Vulnerable is a Strength..

Today I want to talk about vulnerability.

Vulnerability comes from the Latin word for “wound,” vulnus. 

Most people think that being vulnerable is a weakness. Whilst you are feeling vulnerable this may be the case, but exposing your vulnerability in the right arena does help you to develop strength within.

Wounds heal.  – Colette Morris

Being vulnerable and sharing your vulnerability to others shows that you are being your authentic self, you are human, that you do have flaws.

The quote below is from the author Brené Brown – Rising to the top. It sums up really well what vulnerability is and isn’t.

For me becoming suddenly a single mother, home owner and responsible for my children’s futureI felt very vulnerable in many areas. Financially, I just didn’t have the resource available right away to help put food on the table and keep the roof over my head. Mentally, I wasn’t prepared for the stress and the strain of being a single parent with financial burdens and the future of my children at hand, but to stop my feeling this way I soon made these weaknesses a strength, it wasn’t easy, nothing ever is. I was lucky to have the support of friends and family, good mentors and business coaches to help me work things through.

Being vulnerable is not just on a personal relationship level, it can also be on a business level.  As a leader, being vulnerable is something that can be in several areas.   As a Manager, you may feel vulnerable whenever you have to talk to a co worker about their performance, or lateness or attendence levels, it can be difficult to approach, and it either is handled firmly, or sensitively depending on the circumstance.  Those are the vulnerability points within that role.

Business leaders make decisions that may open them up to being vulnerable daily, whether it is gently letting a buyer down, or making a decision about the future of the company which may affect the employees.

Some may argue that they cannot afford to be vulnerable, but there is vulnerability in everything, a decision, a circumstance or situation sometimes not in your control.

If you are feeling vulnerable right now, then seek help, talk to someone who you can trust who can help support you through mentoring, finance, advice and importantly help yourself to heal your own wounds, don’t rely on a Band-Aid to fix things, it does take time. Have faith and move forward with strength.

Is Your Imagination Holding You Back?

Bob Proctor also appeared on the Secret Movie by Rhonda Bryne, and he has been practising the Law of Attraction for many many years now.  Here are his thoughts on why so many of us are held back by our thoughts.

If you struggling to see where you are going, struggling to find purpose then watch this short video to help kick start your journey.

It was by studying the Law of Attraction, watching The Secret, reading the Secret and subsequent Law of Attraction books that helped me find myself and helped me to grow spiritually, mentally and develop a mindset of endurance and less resistance to situations happening around me. 

I began to look for the opportunities, and without fail they came.  When I lost sight of my inner consciousness and self, the opportunities dissappeared.  I have and am still learning, that you have to be consistent with your actions, and your thoughts on what you want in order to achieve what you want.

Let me know your thoughts….

 


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These 3 Sentences Will Change Your Life

Lisa Nichols appeared on The Secret, and is a revered motivational speaker. She suffered abuse at the hands of a partner, almost died and managed the strength to walk away.

Her book NO MATTER WHAT helped me through the toughest times of my life with its positivity and instrutions on how to create a world you want to be in.

 


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