Today I want to talk about vulnerability.
Vulnerability comes from the Latin word for “wound,” vulnus.
Most people think that being vulnerable is a weakness. Whilst you are feeling vulnerable this may be the case, but exposing your vulnerability in the right arena does help you to develop strength within.
Wounds heal. – Colette Morris
Being vulnerable and sharing your vulnerability to others shows that you are being your authentic self, you are human, that you do have flaws.
The quote below is from the author Brené Brown – Rising to the top. It sums up really well what vulnerability is and isn’t.
For me becoming suddenly a single mother, home owner and responsible for my children’s futureI felt very vulnerable in many areas. Financially, I just didn’t have the resource available right away to help put food on the table and keep the roof over my head. Mentally, I wasn’t prepared for the stress and the strain of being a single parent with financial burdens and the future of my children at hand, but to stop my feeling this way I soon made these weaknesses a strength, it wasn’t easy, nothing ever is. I was lucky to have the support of friends and family, good mentors and business coaches to help me work things through.
Being vulnerable is not just on a personal relationship level, it can also be on a business level. As a leader, being vulnerable is something that can be in several areas. As a Manager, you may feel vulnerable whenever you have to talk to a co worker about their performance, or lateness or attendence levels, it can be difficult to approach, and it either is handled firmly, or sensitively depending on the circumstance. Those are the vulnerability points within that role.
Business leaders make decisions that may open them up to being vulnerable daily, whether it is gently letting a buyer down, or making a decision about the future of the company which may affect the employees.
Some may argue that they cannot afford to be vulnerable, but there is vulnerability in everything, a decision, a circumstance or situation sometimes not in your control.
If you are feeling vulnerable right now, then seek help, talk to someone who you can trust who can help support you through mentoring, finance, advice and importantly help yourself to heal your own wounds, don’t rely on a Band-Aid to fix things, it does take time. Have faith and move forward with strength.