Being Vulnerable is a Strength..

Today I want to talk about vulnerability.

Vulnerability comes from the Latin word for “wound,” vulnus. 

Most people think that being vulnerable is a weakness. Whilst you are feeling vulnerable this may be the case, but exposing your vulnerability in the right arena does help you to develop strength within.

Wounds heal.  – Colette Morris

Being vulnerable and sharing your vulnerability to others shows that you are being your authentic self, you are human, that you do have flaws.

The quote below is from the author Brené Brown – Rising to the top. It sums up really well what vulnerability is and isn’t.

For me becoming suddenly a single mother, home owner and responsible for my children’s futureI felt very vulnerable in many areas. Financially, I just didn’t have the resource available right away to help put food on the table and keep the roof over my head. Mentally, I wasn’t prepared for the stress and the strain of being a single parent with financial burdens and the future of my children at hand, but to stop my feeling this way I soon made these weaknesses a strength, it wasn’t easy, nothing ever is. I was lucky to have the support of friends and family, good mentors and business coaches to help me work things through.

Being vulnerable is not just on a personal relationship level, it can also be on a business level.  As a leader, being vulnerable is something that can be in several areas.   As a Manager, you may feel vulnerable whenever you have to talk to a co worker about their performance, or lateness or attendence levels, it can be difficult to approach, and it either is handled firmly, or sensitively depending on the circumstance.  Those are the vulnerability points within that role.

Business leaders make decisions that may open them up to being vulnerable daily, whether it is gently letting a buyer down, or making a decision about the future of the company which may affect the employees.

Some may argue that they cannot afford to be vulnerable, but there is vulnerability in everything, a decision, a circumstance or situation sometimes not in your control.

If you are feeling vulnerable right now, then seek help, talk to someone who you can trust who can help support you through mentoring, finance, advice and importantly help yourself to heal your own wounds, don’t rely on a Band-Aid to fix things, it does take time. Have faith and move forward with strength.

Take Back Your Power

Today I want to talk about taking back your power. What do I mean?

If you have felt that you are not being heard, not being listened to, being undermined by others, you do not hold your power within you.Instead you are letting them hold the power over you.

If you have spent your years looking after children, looking after the family and neglecting yourself, your ideas, your dreams you may find it difficult to express those dreams and ideas, feeling unable to assert them in a positive and beneficial way to your partner or friends.

As women, we go through so much in life, without realising our strengths. Times of lack, times of stress, times of pain, times of worry. We are the linchpin in most cases for a stable family home, or keeping some kind of sanity in the home especially for our children. We give them hope, courage, support. Even when we do not get this ourselves. Some of us are natural born nurturers others have to learn how to nurture. Most of us are compassionate and empathetic towards others. These are huge strengths.

It is only when you go through tough times, times of struggles that you realise, when you come out the other end how strong you really are. Real Women support each other, sisters support each other, find your tribe who will support you.

So what can you do to gain confidence!

It is not easy as a woman to build your confidence, you do need someone or others behind you to help build you up. Self help, self development books and videos and networking meetings are a great source of growing your confidence.

Share your story with like-minded people, there will be others out there with a similar story who you will attract. It’s important to find your tribe.

What is the tribe?

According to Collins dictionary The definition of a tribe is a group of people, or a community with similar values or interests, a group with a common ancestor, or a common leader.

For those that can relate to you, and you to them the relationship will yield great results.

So go out there and find someone who resonates with you, your values, and how you would like to be. Follow them on whatever platform they are on. Get in touch with them and asked them to Mentor you. Don’t be afraid, they were once in your position.

#sisterswithvibes

Wolf Pack Leadership

The first 3 wolves are omega wolves (the older or sick so they set the pace of the group).

The following are the 5 strongest wolves of the group.

In the middle remaining members of the pack, and at the end of the pack the other 5 stronger.

Yet the last, alone, follows the alpha wolf. It controls everything from the back. That position allows alpha to lead the pack, decide the direction to follow and anticipate the attacks of opponents.

The pack follows the rhythm and the pace of the elders and the head of command that creates the environment of mutual

help not leaving anyone behind.

#dreamteam #hustleup #leadership

Woman you got Skills!

Most of us don’t know our own value. We got skills we don’t think are important or valuable. 


I’m talking to the stay at home mother. The homemaker, you sacrifice your career in order to look after the children, nurture and be there for them, providing food and love and stability while running a beautiful  home. 

You organise their day to day activities, you ensure they have their lunch, their gym kit, that their homework is completed. You get them to school on time. 

You arrange appointments for dentist, GP where appropriate and make sure they get there on time. 

You tidy away their mess, wash cook and clean. 

You manage the household budget, paying the bills, buying food and all the necessary items that are needed around the house. 

When the house is being decorated, you are the one who chooses the colour schemes the fittings and ensure they go in the right places.

When there are arguments and fights between the kids, you are the peacemaker. 

You are the organiser amongst other things when there are birthday parties and family get-togethers. 

So considering all of the above, let’s break it down and see the tangible skill sets in a work place environment for what they are.
You have a great time management skills, you have great organisational skills, you are strategic in your thinking, and you’re able to handle a budget. You able to negotiate and are great at facilitating. 

You have great project management skills, and able to multitask and work with a team or on your own initiative. 

You are a go to person, and you get things done! 

You are a leader, you motivate and inspire! You are a great teacher and nurturer. 

So the next time you feel that you are not capable of going out there in the real world to get a job that pays well, just look at your transferable skills and take that to the marketplace.