5 Tips To Help You Find You..

 

It took me nearly 5 years to find out who I was, after going through a relationship breakdown. Many of us go through life without really understanding who we are, what we like, what we don’t like, and where we want to be in life.

I went from being a teenager living at home, daughter and big sister, to being a partner, moving in with my then boyfriend who later became my husband. Then became a mother and in all of this time didn’t really have time to find me.

Sounds familiar?

So when I went through my relationship breakdown, I took some time out to try and find me, to try and find you the real me was not this person who was mother daughter, sister, friend.

To hear some tips I hope you find useful because it the stages really did help me to find myself and I hope they will help you too.

1. Love yourself

when you truly love yourself, no one will ever hurt your spirit or the real you again. Learn to love who you truly are. Ask your family and friends what they feel are your best qualities, you’ll be surprised what they put out and send back to you.

Begin to value yourself, you have a lot to give not only to yourself but to those around you.

Look deep within and ask yourself the following:

What are my favourite foods, colours, music?

What don’t I like in a person? Do I have any of these qualities? How can I make a change to remove them?

What do I like in a person? Do I have these qualities myself?

What am I passionate about in life?

What would I like to change in my life/ about myself?

What are my strengths? You might want to ask your friends and family about this one.

What are my weaknesses.

What is the best thing I like about me?

When you can truly answer all of these questions you have a better picture of who you are. You will begin to see who your authentic self is, you begin to have peace within yourself knowing that no one can take away the essence of who you are

2. Be Selfish

I found this one really hard to do, because I am a selfless person and I love to help people sometimes to my own detriment. There is a time where you need to be selfish. You need to put yourself first. When you realise that your own mental health is more important than trying to support someone else you will begin to understand the selfishness to keep you sane and keep you healthy.

When was the last time you treated yourself?

Say no to people, Saying no does not mean you’re mean person. And you should never feel guilty either. This I found really hard to do, but eventually if you explain to people why you cannot take certain things on they do understand and no they don’t shoot you down for it.

3. Dream Again

You may have had dreams at the start of a relationship, but for whatever reason those dreams got batted down or simply got put away. Now is the time to bring them back up again. I found using a vision board really useful if you’re not sure what a vision board is you can google and find out. Basically cut out the things that you want in life and this could be pictures that represent what you want out of life if it’s a loving relationship find a Picture of a couple in love, if you’d like to go on a cruise where would you like to go? If you want a new car, what car, what colour, what interior, if you wanna go on holiday where do you want to go? Get the picture? No dream is to bake, but don’t dream small because you’ll be disappointed if you get them.

4. Surround yourself with positive people

If you find yourself surrounded by friends who are always moaning and complaining, this isn’t going to help you. You need to be around people who are forwardthinking, positive thinking, and who want to do more be more have more in life. This really motivated me and one of the reasons why joining a network marketing company can help you with the positivity around you. No I’m not advocating this for everyone these are my thoughts.

You can join meet up groups that are local to you, and there is a meet up group for every single type of activity you can think of.

Don’t be shy to start conversations with new people, you never know you may meet this way and the people that you talk could be your gateway to your next opportunity.

5. Re-connect with your inner spiritual self

When you have an attitude of gratitude you will start to see things differently.

For me I found keeping a journal really helped, I wrote down all my thoughts and my feelings on a day-to-day basis, along with all the things that I was grateful for. Your core being is your stabiliser physically, emotionally and mentally and you need to reconnect with that, this can be done through meditation, through yoga through prayer.

Find a way to help yourself destress, to help you be at peace. Listening to music, going for long walks, yoga, anything to relax the mind. So these are some of the things I initially did to help get me back on track.  Throughout my blog I will be sharing more so keep tuning in, and do let me know what you have found useful. 

Love to hear from you!

 


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Fish For A Healthy Mind

I love eating fish, and fish is exceptionally good for the mind as it is high in omega fish oils. It has become a bit of a routine especially in this hot weather that we are enjoying here in the UK , to just simply put fish under the grill or on the barbecue and eating it within 20 minutes.

A diet rich in oily fish has a direct impact on your mood. It is widely believed that omega-3 fats help to increase the “grey matter” you have in your brain, and a diet rich in oily fish helps the brain actually grow. The so-called “grey matter” has a direct effect on your mood and the old fashioned term “brain food” is seemingly true when referring to fish.

Women going through the transitional phase of menopause are often affected by numerous signs and symptoms. One of these symptoms is depression, and dealing with it is tough. Depression usually includes, or is a result of, anxiety, low sex drive, and fatigue. Now, we all feel down in the dumps at some point during our lives, however there are foods that can stimulate the mind and may help us overcome this feeling, fish being one of them.

If however you don’t like fish, then you can take omega 3,6,12 tablets instead, but Studies have shown that tablet form does not easily absorbed into the body and therefore is not as affective as most people would like to think.

Or you could look at our seed nutrition supplement RAIN SOUL which delivers omega 3 and 6 in a more absorbable way so that your body will get much more benefit.

Another reason for eating fish is that not only is it easy to do, but it’s very low in calories high in protein has lots of good fats and is much easier to digest than heavy meats.

If you look good on the outside you feel good on the inside, you have to work at yourself both inside and out. You cannot do one without the other.

Changing your eating habits, eating healthier or have both positive effect on your mind and on your body so make that decision to take a step in the right direction and make a change today.

I wanted to share one of my favourite fish with you. It’s in the photo sea bream closely followed by sea bass – what’s your favourite?

Self Talk – The Realisation

In todays post I wanted to go through how important it is to have a more positive mental attitude.  It is so important how you talk to yourself internally.  It really does affect your confidence, your ability to function and many other areas in your life.

I know from first hand experience.  My life changed over 15 years ago now ever since I went on a personal journey to find myself.

Listen up to my short podcase (5 minutes) on how important self realisation is and what you can do to get around negativity within you.

 

Let me know your thinking below 🙂

Got No Energy – Am I a SAD case?

Photo Courtesy of David OakesSometimes especially first thing in the morning in winter months, I  struggle with my energy levels, I am normally a morning person when it comes to getting the most things done.  However, during the winter I struggle with getting up. 

I swear I suffer from the SAD (Seasonal Affective Disorder) syndrome. If you have never heard of this, it is when the winter months affect your mood, your mindset, your energy and your mental health.  Some people get depressed, withdraw into themselves, struggle to get the day started, feel over tired, you get the drift….  Apparently over 2million people suffer from this in the UK and more that 12 million across Europe.

 

When it is summer I normally spring out of bed and into crazy action mode as soon as daylight hits the curtains, but in the winter it is a struggle for me to get out of bed in the dark, I feel tired, slouchy and no energy.

So what can I do about it?

  • I really need to invest in a SAD clock or light box. I’ve heard that they help you wake up more naturally in the dark winter months.  It works by gently creating a sunrise effect in your bedroom.  So when you set your alarm, it will begin an artificial sunrise 30 minutes before the alarm is due.  There are also clocks that have natural noises, such as birdsong, water etc.  I know for me just the sound of the birds tweeting and seeing daylight will get me up in a much more agreeable mood.
  • More importantly especially as I live in the UK, suffering from a lack of Vitamin D does not help with your energy levels.   So from September to April I take vitamin D supplementation.  Not only does Vitamin D help with bone health, it also helps with mood also.
  • Walking – yes that’s right walking helps according to Seasonal Affective Disorder Association (SADA).     They recommend a one hour walk in the middle of the day can help you cope with the winter blues.
  • Eat Healthy – in the winter months you are more prone to eating stodgy foods and putting weight on, this doesn’t help the situation. So eat less carbohydrates and more fruits and vegetables.
  • Get out and about into the sunlight as much as possible. This will help you feel much better, I know 🙂
  • Take up a new hobby, one that will keep you occupied and stop you thinking about the dark days and nights. 
  • Get out there and see your friends and family more during this time.  It will improve your mental health interacting with others.
  • Seek help if you are really depressed about the cold winter months, it is better to talk to someone about it that suffer alone.  There are support groups about, you can try and find one locally, or contact your local GP for more info and advice.

I hope you found this post useful, if you have any other suggestions and ideas on how to beat the winter blues, please leave a comment below to help others reading this post. 🙂

 

** Photo Courtesy of David Oakes https://davidoakesimages.wordpress.com/2012/04/26/a-dark-and-damp-day-in-cumbria/