Knowing What You Want

Not all of us know what we want out of life. Some of us are blessed at an early age to know where we are going, to understand our purpose. For those like me who only discovered that they have a purpose, this post is really for you.

     Steps to understand what you don’t want 

So the first thing I did, was to get a piece of paper and write down everything that I did not want in my life.  I was being very detailed and very specific   

 I did not want lack of money, I did not want negativity, I did not want anyone  who were self-centred, I did not want the job that I was currently in. If you get the drift,  these are the things that I did not want in my life. 

So, it took me awhile to really write down everything I did not want in my life, and then I re-read through everything I had  written.  Some of it really shocked me, because I was so in the flow that I was just writing everything down I was dumping on the sheet.   After I finish though I felt a huge weight lifted from me, I felt relieved.  

 So I would encourage you to do the same. 

 Steps to understand what it is you do you want 

So now feeling empty, and light at the same time and then I’ll begin to think of the things I did want.

 So I did a similar exercise I got a piece of paper  and I just started to gdt in the flow  and write down everything I wanted in my life.  A Beautiful house, the holidays, being financially free to be able to go anywhere and do what I wanted, what my kids and my friends wanted, and give back to those who needed support from society. I dreamt of outrageous things and I put them down on paper. 

 At the time, I did not have a special person in my life, so I put down what I wanted in that special person and I also asked for a sign so that if he was presented to me I would know it was him that I was looking for.

 I made sure I was specific in my request .   And do you know just three months later after writing that information down I met my life partner who I’ve now been with for the last nine years.  

My life Partner

The secret to knowing what you want, is being clear on knowing what you do not want.

To help me achieve my dreams and my goals, I created a Vision Board, where I found the things that I wanted visually in magazines or online, and then I cut them out or made a picture of them and put them in a picture frame where I could see them every day . This helped with ensuring I get my vision and my goals

You have to be clear and specific on what you do want and to feel like you already have it, visualise it, dream about it, talk about it as if it is already here. Think in the NOW!

Life is not meant to be perfect, but you can enjoy it just the same if you know how to get what you want.

Don’t Hold Onto Your Past… It’s not Worth It!

I have faced many disappointments in life, and I’m sure I will not be the last person to do so.

I have faced disappointment from my career, not being able to progress in the direction I would have wanted. Being held back deliberately by Others in establishment.

I have been let down massively in love and relationships.

I have been let down in friendship and trust.

I could go on.

You see the events we go through in our lives are lessons. They help to strengthen you, to build up you knowledge base, to prepare you for the next level of your life’s journey.

You were born to be resilient.

You survived creation to become you the individual! You survived child birth, childhood, kid adult hood, adult hood to be where you are today.

Your journey in life is unique to you, but areas of your journey will help others walk a safer path, tried and tested path because you have already walked it and came through to share the experience.

Holding onto painful experiences, can poison the mind. It will become a wound that never heals. Negative vibes are not easy to get rid of. You will find that more negativity will come through the people that you meet, through more negative events and situations that comes towards you, until you feel that you are surrounded and sinking with the despair of how will you ever get through.

Negativity will begin to mess with your health, your body will react through a build up of stress, inflammation and illness.

Your mind and mental wellness will suffer, not trusting anyone, being paranoid. Feelings of self worth and self confidence disappears with negative thinking and pain.

So, is it worth hanging on to?

You see when you are going through situations, you may not see a way out. Look for lessons in life, look for the good things in the midst of bad. Move away from the negativity.

Find positive people, put yourself in feelgood situations deliberately. Develop your self confidence and love you first and foremost.

You see when you ultimately love yourself, no one can make you feel bad.

Self Talk – The Realisation

In todays post I wanted to go through how important it is to have a more positive mental attitude.  It is so important how you talk to yourself internally.  It really does affect your confidence, your ability to function and many other areas in your life.

I know from first hand experience.  My life changed over 15 years ago now ever since I went on a personal journey to find myself.

Listen up to my short podcase (5 minutes) on how important self realisation is and what you can do to get around negativity within you.

 

Let me know your thinking below 🙂